Loves me, Loves me not – Perfume & Empathy

I didn’t expect that writing this post last week would be so tough and difficult. Admitting the fact that the event that I was always looking forward to and that made my heart pound with excitement is no longer so wonderful made me feel sad. In fact it made me feel down for the next couple of days and when I added the sad truth that I didn’t succeed in being accepted into perfumery school to the equation it just made me feel even worse. Now I have to plan some summer vacations but I don’t know what to do with them. Your words of cheer and empathy really helped me to get back on track.


I know that it’s not the end of the world and that maybe next time Pitti will be better than in 2018 but still it feels like taking a candy away from a child. Something is missing. Some of you suggested that with the money I would spend on going to Florence I should treat myself to some new perfume. But then Undina asked if I have anything on my “definitely to buy” list right now… I’m about to finish my bottle of Diptyque Eau des Sens so maybe a new citrus is due to join? And there are a couple of other perfume I absolutely wouldn’t mind having in my collection for more regular use.

Among them there’s Beroues Peng Lai, a lovely osmanthus in even more lovely bottle. Memo Winter Palace is a perfume I’ve been lusting over ever since I tried it and my only sample is almost thunked (read: empty). Among some older cravings I have a bunch of irises, like Masque L’Attesa, Heeley Iris de Nuit (which I learned to love after hating it first). Abel Grey Labdanum that I reviewed in January was also brilliant. But some lately tried scents are also lovable. Just look at how good Ormonde Jayne Osmanthus Elixir is. This weekend I also tried Amouage Mimosa Love – it really is love!

Are there any perfume you are already 100% sure you’ll be getting in near future?

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22 thoughts on “Loves me, Loves me not – Perfume & Empathy

  1. Mindy Klein Grazulis says:

    A bottle of Chanel Coco Mademoiselle Intense for me. I am all in for its fuller, rounder intensity…my wallet tells me I can afford it. Although my heart yearns for a full bottle of Amouage Fate Woman, I just can’t spend the money. Sigh!

  2. MMKinPA says:

    I’m sorry this has been a rough patch for you – I hope your spirits lift soon. My collection is far too large – I really need to think about whether I should keep all of the bottles I currently have before I add anything new. I have tried a few things recently that I really enjoyed but I need to give them more time before they graduate to true “want” status!!

    • lucasai says:

      Thanks! I keep my collection at a fair size and I almost don’t have any full bottles. Most of things I own were split and I always kept 30-50% of the original bottle size.
      We all know some perfume like that. Something that you really like but can live without it.

      • MMKinPA says:

        I wish I had built my collection with splits. I don’t know if I will ever finish a bottle – although now that I’m consciously buying smaller bottles I just might!

  3. hajusuuri says:

    When doors close, another one opens.

    I’m naughty — I am awaiting a partial bottle “sample” of Papillon Bengale Rouge. Also tops on my list but I am starting off tiny first are Splendiris and Winter Palace. I have pretty much decided that I will generally give in to my whims and then ask if anyone wants to split (rather than waiting for a split to fill before proceeding).

    • lucasai says:

      I already have Splendiris and Winter Palace is sooooo good, not to mention the bottle with a dragon drawing which is so pretty.
      I could get Mimosa Love from Amouage but that one is super expensive and I could replace with Prada Infusion de Mimosa.
      Whatever I get I will split it too. Don’t need 100 ml or 75ml of anything.

  4. Jillie says:

    If it’s love, well then go for Mimosa Love …… although I would quite like you to own the OJ too, me being me! I imagine the ML will be full of happiness and sunshine.

    It’s been a tough summer for you, with too much sadness. But it’s time for your fortune to change; we never know what fate has in store for us so we have to grab the opportunities and challenges as they come along, even if that means following a different path to what we planned.

    • lucasai says:

      I need more time to rectify this but I know that I like it.

      Yes, this summer brough a lot of things to my life and none of them was super great.

  5. Mariann says:

    I want Dipytique Tempo and im waffling betwen various ones but I definitely want a jasmin perfume. Im sorry to hear about the bad news and that you are feeling blue, I hope things look up soon! Transitions are hard 😒

  6. rickyrebarco says:

    I’m so sad to learn that you were not accepted into the perfume school. They don’t know how brilliant you are. That school is missing out for sure. Can you apply again later or to another school? I’m one of those never give up people so I’m always trying to figure out how to get what I want, if not directly, is there another way to the same place?

    I know it will take you a while to figure out your next steps and it is very disconcerting that Pitti was disappointing last year. I really hate to miss things that I’ve attended in the past, but I’ve had to give up some conventions and expos related to some of my interests in the last couple of years for similar reasons. They aren’t the same anymore, but every year when they come around I still feel sad for what once was.

    Nevertheless, your loyal readers are here for you. Sending love and big hugs and strength for you these next few weeks.

    All the best, Ricky

  7. rickyrebarco says:

    As for perfumes I really want,the regular Ormonde Jayne Osmanthus is on my wish list. But right now my heart’s desire is Eugen Ans Auphorie Anima Della Rossa. The Ans brothers extraits are not for everyone but I loved Iris Macchiato and Anima della Rossa has my eyes rolling back in my head- roses, honey, some nice animalics, mmmmmm

  8. Undina says:

    It’s a pity (Pitti 😉 ) that the school hadn’t worked out but after you come to terms with that, let’s hope that one day soon you’ll discover that it was for the best, and something even better comes around.

    Don’t buy Amouage now: each new release sells full (really high) price. In a year – eighteen months they usually can be had for much cheaper.

    I do not currently have anything on “to buy” list: I’m testing much less recently and, in general, I’m too busy to think about new perfumes. But it doesn’t mean that I won’t buy any if I come across something that I like.

    • lucasai says:

      I know it’s a shame to miss out on such opportunities but I really do hope it will be for the better.

      I know this is true for the US but in Poland it’s not that easy to buy niche with a good discount. I can’t afford to pay 320 euro for Amouage anyway, no matter how much I like it.

      Hope that any next perfume you try will work for you.

  9. So sorry to hear that you didn’t get accepted into perfumery school! That’s a major setback. But then again: not every perfumer did, so there are other ways to make a living of your passion. As for perfume buying: there seem to be few perfumes that tempt me into buying a full bottle lately. I just have too many, so I turned to samples to keep on discovering without breaking the bank. Maybe we could set up a swap service so we can all spend the money on transportation costs for decants instead of full bottles?

    • lucasai says:

      I wouldn’t mind if we all said what decants we can make and where we are happy to send and what we are looking for in return. Now Smell This does this swapmeet thing bit only twice a year. Plus it’s mostly US unfortunately for us Europeans

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